Dating new friends
It is hard to break into other people's social circles, and absent attending "new to ATL meetups" that is what you're going to be doing.It doesn't have to do with being in the south.I caved and have a decent group of single girl friends that aren't a ton like me. Going out with them for girls night is fun but the selection of guys is not what I am looking for.
Do any natives have any suggestions for me or for any other transplants could you confirm that I am not the only one who feels this way? I moved to ATL from the north 15 years ago, making friends here is no different than anywhere I've ever lived - that is, you need to make consistent sustained effort to make friends as an adult when you're no longer in a situation (like college) where everyone is starting fresh.
Here's what helped me: Live in a very social apartment complex. I can't help with dating but yeah, it's a lot easier to meet girls with other friends so it doesn't seem creepy (why oh why does this have to be a thing in modern society? You just have to let things happen naturally or be ok with lots of people giving you the cold shoulder.
The building I lived in still has a great community that is very welcoming and everybody is young and parties. It took me about two years to get friends but it got much better.you're right about the dating.
The one thing I will say though is I agree with you 100 percent about what you said regarding expectations vs reality.
I think i need to realize that making friends in the working world is much harder and requires more patience and effort than in college I'm from the midwest and yeah, it was tough making friends. My first few jobs I didn't meet any people but after a while I started to amass friends and you'd be surprised how many people I didn't think I'd hang out with but now years later we still grab a drink.