Dating people at work bad idea
Read more: The psychological reasons why you fall in love with your colleagues A quarter of people would consider quitting their job if their 'work spouse' left the company 20 things you should never say to your coworkers I once dated a coworker, and though it worked out for us, office romances can be a very tricky thing to navigate. A Career Builder survey from last February revealed that nearly 36% of employees admitted to having a romantic relationship with a coworker, and one-third of office relationships result in marriage. We're approaching our fourth wedding anniversary.) It's up to you to figure out whether pursuing an office relationship is worth the possible consequences, good and bad.
"If, however, love happens to strike at work, don't make a concerted effort to fight it at any cost.
"If, however, love happens to strike at work, don't make a concerted effort to fight it at any cost. " Those are questions we're frequently asked when we tell people the story of our office romance.
Just know the risks." Your decision not only affects you, but other person, both your careers, and those around you. Our answer to all three: Nope...because we followed "the rules." The truth is, office romances can be very tricky and generally not recommended.
"Save it for your family or friends outside work." Talking about the relationship can be distracting or make colleagues feel uncomfortable, so don't do it. "It's hard enough today to concentrate with open office spaces, a plethora of technology devices, frantic deadlines, multiple bosses, and so on," says Taylor. What happens at home or in your personal life (no matter who you're dating) almost always affects your attitude, which affects your work — it's just a fact of life. The same way you shouldn't It's unfair and unethical to give your significant other's work more attention and to make decisions that ultimately benefit them.
"Add to that two lovers fighting over doing dishes in the next cube and you have one unhappy coworker, who you may catch sauntering to HR." Also, it's entirely unprofessional to complain about your personal relationships at work, whether you're dating a colleague or not. But try your hardest not to let your disagreements with your partner affect the decisions you make or how your treat others at work. So while it may be tempting, stop yourself before you get yourself into trouble. "Spend your time as if you are not dating this person," advises Taylor. "Employees are generally encouraged to report incidents of sexual harassment or events that create a hostile work environment," says Taylor.
You'll want to to what you can to keep work and your personal life separate.
One complaint to HR for PDA, showing preferential treatment, or using words of endearment in public will at the very least trigger an investigation." Go easy on flirtatious texts and emails.
Before you risk hurting your reputation at work, find out if this person is someone you'd want to spend weekends with. Even if there are no explicit policies against it, find out how upper management feels about office romances. Dating your boss or your direct report can be particularly dangerous for a variety of reasons. People either don't care, will think it's obnoxious or inappropriate, or will get jealous. Once you have a sense that this might have a future, talk to your partner and decide how and when you want to disclose your relationships to your colleagues. "You may have the burden of overcompensating with professionalism and keeping an artificial distance, which can be an awkward strain," says Taylor.
If they're common and happen in your workplace all the time, great. If the rumor mill goes into high gear, that might be the right time. You and your new partner need to agree on some ground rules and come up with a plan for how you will keep it professional and stay within written or unwritten rules. "Better to overcompensate than to constantly test the limits of workplace etiquette while hoping for the best." 7. Focus on work and do your job — especially if you want to mitigate gossip.
You'll be tempted to chat about the latest office gossip over dinner — but don't. which isn't good for your relationship, or your career. For instance, maybe you decide that it's okay to discuss work on your car ride home, but as soon as you get there, it's off limits. Consider what you'd want to do if things do work out.
As a relationship becomes more serious, oftentimes one person will decide to leave the employer completely, because the more involved you are, the greater likelihood of the relationship interfering with your job.