Im dating a black girl online dating what not to do

University is difficult because there were so many people – but out of the 35 musicians on my course, I was most definitely the only black person (until third year).

It’s as if I had instantly been reduced to an instrument for sex, rather than a multi-dimensional person.For instance, I was wary of posting photos with my natural hair out, especially as my main pic. I didn’t have any white Tinder-using friends to compare matches with, but with the matches that I did receive, I had to consider whether or not each guy genuinely wanted to get to know me or had only swiped right because I was Black, hoping to fulfill a fetish or fantasy.One such instance happened when I met with a guy at a west-end bar and we had a really dreamy date.But afterwards, when I did a thorough Insta-stalk, I was kind of weirded out to find that there were more than a dozen photos of scantily-clad Black women on his page, clearly sourced from Google or Tumblr.It’s hard to articulate why this made me uncomfortable but this feeling was hard to shake.

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