In a relationship but still on dating sites
But how does one even meet people without an app anymore?
Approaching strangers in bars is harder than it's ever been; we leave our dating to our phones, and real life is spent inside the confines of our tightly knit friend circles.
Dating apps reward homogeneity, sifting everyone into two-dimensional profiles that look the same, sound the same, and in some cases, even algorithmically identify which picture is best to represent you for the largest possible audience.
Of course, people don't love each other for what makes them the same; they love them for what makes them unique.
I asked some of my friends that question and got varying answers: But how do you filter for that?
They're often more hazard than help, and the forced psychoanalysis of every picture and witty answer can shake even the most durable of confidences loose. Is it really possible to find true love with just your thumbs?
I wanted someone insatiable, someone whose eyes set ablaze when they talked about something important to them.
I wanted someone who was a good friend, a motivator, someone who enjoyed being a blessing to those around them.
I set out on a journey to find out, and it starts with defining love itself. Like any muscle, it must be persistently worked on in order to grow.
And love for most people seems to emulate that—a laborious growing process.