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We yearn to embrace our sexual bliss, and yet have allowed what our mothers, grandmothers, aunties, and sister-friends have said about “them” keep us from pursuing something new.We know how hard it is to fight against the stereotypes of black women as lascivious, innately promiscuous, and even predatory, deviants— and yet we feel more than justified in projecting our own labels on others, unfairly sizing up men and defining their capabilities between the sheets (or lack thereof) based on what so-and-so- said instead of considering the realities of the individual that just might be the guy who can makes your toes curl.” My toes curled, more than once. And even though I doubt me and this kid from Jersey will ever be more than just friends due to our chosen life paths (he’s ready to settle in one place and pursue a serious relationship, I want to keep traveling and find a partner who is willing to go with me), it was still worth giving us the opportunity to share intimacy, a deeper level of connection, and now, a stronger friendship.Eventually, our vacation ended and he headed to the south of Brasil to start his new job. It had been almost six months since we had first met, and I certainly had changed.I returned to the city to continue living my life, and we kept in touch through semi-frequent Skype chats about our lives as Americans in Brasil. I had opened a different chapter in my dating life, one that included more interracial dating than relationships with Black men in Brasil.The sex was focused primarily on my pleasure, and he wasn’t lacking in anyway to be able to deliver it.But it did make me reflect on why I had limited myself for so long to just having sex and dating Black men or never challenging the popular stereotypes.

Just two kids from Jersey traveling abroad that happened to bump into each other by stereotypical mistake.” After watching the sunset together, he invited me to meet up with them to salsa that evening.I wouldn’t give him a definite answer, as I had articles to finish and work to do.And frankly, I just wouldn’t let my guard down to the idea of hooking up with a white American guy when there were so many Afro-Brasilian men in my surroundings.I was prejudiced, or in kinder words had a preference, for brown beautiful men.

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